Let’s be honest. At times we complain about wanting things to change, but secretly want the change without the effort. Whether it’s weight loss, saving money, or paying off debt, sometimes we just want the issue to resolve itself without any sacrifice on our end.
Sometimes we’re simply too tired to keep trying. Too tired to keep giving up what we want now for what’s better for us in the long run.
I understand. I’ve had those moments. And had one recently that I had to push through.
While I celebrated that we were able to find the “extra” last month to make it rain $203 on Navient,
it was frustrating that we did so in part by reducing our personal ‘fun money’ (discretionary fund).
And with less money, comes less fun. At least in NYC.
I admit to stomping my feet and crying about life not being fair. But then came to my adult senses and snapped out of it.
Not having enough to do everything, I had to be strategic about how to use what I had left when it came time to hanging out with friends.
First, I couldn’t accept every invitation, unfortunately. Second, I had to schedule meetups after the start of a new budget. And third, I had to be straightforward about needing to work around limited funds.
Thankfully, my friends are Waldo-Geraldo-Faldo laid-back and just said “cool” and kept it moving.
It’s good to be surrounded by people who support instead of derail your goals.*
Student debt repayment is a commitment. Unless a rich eccentric aunt comes out of the woodwork to offer us a windfall, most of us won’t be rid of it overnight.
It’s okay if we get tired. To say it’s not worth doing more than the minimum. It’s okay to be frustrated in the moment. To walk away to clear our heads. Go for a run. Have a good cry. Play music. Read a book. Watch a silly movie.
And when we’ve done so, we can come back renewed and refocused on why this goal matters to us. And then we can keep going.
I’d love to hear your updates. What changes have you made recently to make it rain on your goals? Where are you finding the “extra”? How are you handling the too-tired days?
* 😦 Brittany Murphy. And I miss pre-Fox News Stacey Dash.